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If you weren’t willing to extend an effort to get to know her friends before, tell her you’d be game for drinks as a group. “Don’t go down memory lane and hash out all the things you thought were wrong with the relationship,” Spira says.
Focus on the positive qualities that brought you together in the first place, like your crazy sense of humor, or the way your laid-back personality complements her type-A tendencies. Use the friend group: Even though you might want a new beginning, you should still tap back into those old loving feelings.
“If you did something hurtful, make a real apology,” Frances says.
Vulnerability on your part might improve your odds of a second chance; don’t just rip the Band-Aids off old wound.
It’s dishonest, and you’ll only make the guy mad when you meet in person.
The only exception is if you look the same as you did five years ago or whatever the case is.
She knows, you know—keep the conversation light.” 5.
Own up: If she seems open, and you want to step up for another at-bat, acknowledge your shortcomings.